Come Sit With Me In The Darkness

It has been dark since 5 pm this evening. Thanks a lot Daylight Savings.

I am sitting in what feels like a wave of darkness. I know. I know. Morning will come. The sun will rise. Jesus is Lord.

But right now I am sitting in the darkness and as a woman of color, an immigrant, an alien, I am intimately familiar with this space.

When Jesus breathed his final breath on that cross “many women were there watching from a distance. They had followed Jesus from Galilee to care for his needs.”

Women sat and waited opposite the tomb. I do not need the text to tell me they cried. I know. Women, we know. We know they cried. We know they wanted to hope while they processed their grief and fear. We know because we do this emotional and spiritual heavy-lifting often in silence. Often in darkness. Waiting.

So, dear sisters. Let’s sit together and cry and grieve and tell stories and wait and laugh and get angry and give language to our confusion and sorrow. Let’s sit together and wait for the angels to give us our next steps because we know in the morning whether it’s tomorrow or down the road the angels will tell us to come and see and go quickly.

It’s not over. But I’m OK sitting here tonight in tears and darkness.


  1. Faye Waidley November 9, 2016

    My prayer continues… Lord have mercy on us all.

  2. Kim Cheng November 9, 2016

    With you, Kathy

  3. Jen November 9, 2016

    Weeping with you tonight Kathy. Thank you for this. I’m only 26, is it ohk to be scared? For me, for my black husband, and for the future of our Afro-Latino son?

    To be honest, I’m so angry and confused. We’ve been through so much already even with an awesome president like Obama. I’m so hurt. I’m just so speechless and scared, but mostly, I’m just tired. So tired.

    Just now when I was just tempted to study up on Hitler’s rise to power. I heard Jesus say “Salvation is from the Jews.” The oppressed people from that tyranny. Praying for God’s grace, his sovereignty, and his protection as He stands with the oppressed tonight.

    • DB November 9, 2016

      All along I kept sharing with Trump supporters that Hitler was popular with the people before he came to power……..I am scared too! I don’t think our country will be great for the next four years, but we will rise out of the ashes…….God is bigger than all this,,,,I am trusting in the Lord to deliver this evil from our land

  4. Jody November 9, 2016

    I’m with ya, Kathy. Sitting here in the dark myself.

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  7. Margaret Selle November 9, 2016

    Romans 13:12 The night is almost gone, and the day is st hand. Let us lay aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light.
    My tears have been shed, my breath was taken from me. Now is my time to shine for the right of all and continue with good works.

  8. kat November 10, 2016

    I’m just grateful for sisters in the struggle. Who will sit in the darkness, the dark night of our national soul.

  9. Jennifer November 11, 2016

    I was sent to your blog this week by one of the few other Asian-American women in my life. As I find myself this week rocketing between outrage, fear, denial and all the other stages of grief, I have realized that my voice is not entirely that of the black, brown, LGBTQI and other more openly marginalized groups and nor is it entirely that of privileged white America. And so I must confront (after somewhat ignoring for many years) my identity as an Asian-American woman, married to a white Protestant Anglo-saxon man and mother to a sweet baby boy who is half and half and more than two halves put together. Grateful to have found you to sit in the dark with, Kathy.

  10. Beth Mullenberg November 16, 2016

    Waiting with you. Sending love wherever I can, wherever I see it is needed. Occasionally having to listen to myself, step away to get centered with the Creator. It’s a hard hard time to be a human when all that is facing you is fear. In spite of all the vitriol, I can’t help but feel heartened that so many people are actually having this conversation. People who I’ve known my whole life who would never have admitted there is still a problem with racism in America; Sexism in America; Elitism in America…..are talking. I have seen people find common ground by relying on their shared love of something bigger than themselves. We are reaching out to whatever our idea of ‘other’ is. We are standing up to protect and defend, nurture and comfort. #jesusloveisradical


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